I feel like expressing my views on intimacy since some friends and most likely family members have asked me a lot about it. That article will act as an exercise to form my explanation in words to them. Also presently, i am blessed with a lot of time and space to think.
The question of intimacy kept popping and, has brought up a close up reflexion concerning such a beautiful feeling like intimacy is. I was often asked lately: but how can you understand intimacy? Since i am single for quite some time.
In the times of before, such as five years ago, it meant living or sharing my living space with a specific person. But certainly, I was lacking of grasping the real nature of intimacy.
Then, i went alone.
That is only then, that it all bloomed in front of my eyes.
Now, when i am sharing my time with a friend, that is intimacy. When i have a time on my own generating loving thoughts, that is intimacy. When i accept someone’s secrets, and fears, that is intimacy.
In fact, to cut it short, every time i open widely my arms for someone, i live intimacy at its most elevated form.
And i used to think that i had intimacy with that one special person, waking up in the morning with that only one person, making love, sharing meals everyday with again that person and revealing my secret self only to that person.
…At the time, it was nice yes. I absolutely have no regrets. Neither nostalgia.
But back then i was enslaved into the habit of sharing all the most beautiful bits of myself with one single person, when i could in fact have made a whole lot of other people benefit from it.
Now, i became open and intimate with everybody who is capable of living the moment when it happens, along with me.
And i’m intimate now with that one person who maybe reads it and nods.
And also with that other who thinks that it’s spiritual crap.
Thank you.
